A Flaw: Tragedy
I got up one morning last week and saw I had a pimple on my chin. What?! I am too old for this was all I could think. I was indignant and upset. Feeling unsettled, I spent a bit of time trying to hide it with makeup and started my day.
Throughout the morning I kept thinking of that silly pimple. When I would look in the mirror, all I could see was the pimple. Finally, it dawned on me; I was missing the rest of me. At lunch, I stepped back and realized I was letting a little pimple define how I felt about and saw myself. I had wasted a good portion of my day before I could see I was focusing on the minutia instead of the whole. My flaws and mistakes don't define me, unless I allow them to.
Say It Out Loud
So, how do we keep sight of the goodness of the whole? We don't need to hide our flaws or problems in life. They are a part of who we are and are important to the whole. Without them, we are not the same people. Not to say I am not working on the ones that I can change. I am. While my flaws and problems keep me humble and keep life in perspective, I am much more than my flaws. Shining a light on those troubling areas by talking with a friend or family member puts them back in perspective. I find they have no more power over me if I say them out loud to someone else.
As women, we often bond over our flaws and problems. Bonding with someone who seems perfect just doesn't happen. We can't relate to someone with no faults and instinctively know perfection to be false. I don't know about you, but I find it comforting to know I'm not the only one who is not perfect. Having friends who know our imperfections and care about us anyway helps us see the bigger picture.
Social Media Muddies Our Perception
In a world full of social media, it's so easy to look at all that is shared online and think that what we see is all there is to someone else's life. Few people share their flaws and problems online. We forget that while other's lives might be good, they are still not perfect no matter how things appear on the surface. Don't let dissatisfaction creep into your heart when other's lives appear perfect online. Be happy for them, know their lives are more than what you see and remember what is good in your life. Be at peace, for God has given each of us great gifts. We only need to open our hearts and eyes to see them.
Have you ever let a flaw or mistake define you or define how you felt about yourself? Don't go there. You are so much more than your flaws. God calls you beloved, beautiful, precious and worthwhile. God loves you, flaws and all. Who are you to contradict Him?